Friday, May 29, 2009

Shane Charles. How do I start with this kid? He is truly an angel sent from heaven. The definition of innocence...except when he's not. From the day he was born I had a sense about him. I sensed that he decided to sacrifice for his twin sister way before he came to this earth. His sister literally sat on him for the 9 months he was in the womb. While she freely kicked and bounced around, Shane remained squished and completely confined. To this day he is a bit paranoid...of almost everything. 

When Shane came into this world, he looked as if he had been in a train wreck. His jaw was not symmetrical and sort of smashed up on one side. Oh, and was he mad. He screamed this bloody murder scream. I knew from the moment he started crying that he would be a difficult baby. As I held him, that sense of sacrifice stayed with me, in my whole being. When it was time to take the twins home, I brought them to the car and put them in their car seats. Within seconds Alex was fast asleep. Within seconds Shane was screaming his head off. Shane rode home in my arms. 

Over the past three years, Shane has melted my heart more than I can count. He is my cuddle bug. He will never pass up a kiss. This is what he said to me a few days ago: "You are a beautiful princess and I love you so much". Most of the time he is very pleasant, except when he's not. When he is pleasant he is the sweetest child on the planet. When something goes wrong, he can be the most irritating kid around. He has this really high pitched voice that sounds like an angel when he is happy and like a cat scraping it's nails on a chalk board when he's upset. He is a total joker. He can make Jesse completely come apart in a laugh attack. 

Shane asks a ton of questions, just like his brother. His questions are different though. They have a different tone: "If I drive the truck on the floor, you will be angry?" "If a Shark will eat me what will happen?" "What will happen?" is usually at the end of every question. Shane has been obsessed with sharks(he calls Salt Lake, "Shark Lake"), Costco, bees, motorcycles, and the FJ Cruiser to name a few. 

Shane has been in a very long stage of being attached to mom and dad in a very paranoid way. Kevin's sister, Tracie can vouch for this. Tracie is just about the closest female to Shane aside from his mama. She see's him at least 2 or 3 times a week for long periods of time. Every time I go to drop him off at her house, he freaks out. It's always, "Mama, just one more thing" repeated about 10 times. Then I leave, he screams, he stops, he has fun. When it's time to go he and Tracie are tight. That is until the next time. If Shane can't see me within 5 seconds in a public situation, it's freak out time. In a big group of people, he is usually a mess. Church is the same story. But seriously this "stage" has been pretty much his whole life with a few breaks in between. 

Shane will be bigger than Jesse. Jesse does not like hearing that. He eats twice as much as Jesse. I kind of see Shane as an Uncle Wes in the making. He is ALL boy when he plays. Oh, except when he likes to steal Alexandra's princess figurines and throw them in the air or on the floor. He once asked me if he could wear his sister's princess costume. I honestly was speechless for a few moments. I think I even called Kevin for advice. Kevin said, "let him wear it!" So, on goes the dress. About two second's later he said "I don't want to be a princess". He is obsessed with his batman costume. I haven't quite figured out the psychology behind the need to wear that mask so much. 

I guess I could go on and on about Shane. There are so many stories about him. Unlike Alex, I can read Shane like a book. I know how to make him happy, how to make him better, how to distract him and how to make him laugh. I couldn't live without Shane, he is my sunshine on those cold winter days. 

5 comments:

Greek Goddess said...

Wow. I'm impressed with your personality sketches. You are a good writer and it was really fun reading more details about your kids and getting to know them. Makes me think: what would I write about my own kids? Thank you so much for sharing a peek into their souls.

Tracie said...

Seriously...so entertaining, and right on. No one, and I mean no one, knows these little spirits as well as mama...at least not on this earth:) Beautiful depictions of each child...here is a mama who has a lot of love for her chitlins....the good and the bad:)

Papa John said...

I wish I were as trained with little ones like I have been with older ones and could help you figure some of Shane out?
All I believe I know, is what I have experienced with our own, and that is, they leave so much dependency Oedipal baggage behind as they grow older and begin to feel confident in their own skin and environment.
And later on at some point, you may actually "miss" some of those dependency strivings as Shane begins greater attachments with his peers?
In any event, great insightful writings on all three of your children. Oh, and could their be a fourth some day...a yet to be determined fourth writing???

Mama Kath said...

I remember when Shane was NOT afraid to be with those outside his immediate family. I think that was when Alex was taking HER turn not wanting to be with anyone else but Mom or Dad. He is slowly returning to the warm, sensitive, lovable child we all know and love. Life would not be the same without Shane's endearing warmth, his soft smile and his stories of SCARY ghosts!

Unknown said...

What a beautiful post! I can see now I'm very late to your blog. What happened?